This Week's Opening Thought: November 3, 2025

This week’s opening thought: Just in time for food assistance program funding to disappear under a cruel presidential regime, it’s the return of blatant racial profiling at the supermarket led by “good samaritan” people of pallor!

Yay.

As a Black person in a city with an overall very pale population, I’m no stranger to racial profiling, especially in retail settings. I’ve been profiled by people of pallor my entire life, probably more so as an adult.

Must be the t-shirts.

Anyhoo, like I was saying, being profiled is something I’m well acquainted with. Hell, a couple of weeks ago, I caught a person of pallor out of the corner of my eye following me around a local supermarket. He thought that I didn’t notice him trying to keep 10 paces away, watching me like a hawk as I picked up some tofu, but his lack of subtlety in trying to surveil me covertly was pathetic and almost cartoon-like. So when I stopped, made eye contact, and asked him if there was a problem, I damn near scared the pallor off of him.

Why was he tailing me, you ask? That’s a silly-ass question that you know the answer to, but what the hell. I’ll answer it with some specifics for you inquisitive folx.

He was tailing me because he thought I was putting unpaid-for items in my reusable shopping bag and not in the hand basket FULL OF GOODS in my right hand, which, once I called him out on his nonsense, he could blatantly see wasn’t the case.

Now, this store employee, who was not a loss prevention officer or security guard, mind you, could’ve been doing anything with his day at work - stocking shelves, helping customers find things, taking a smoke break and shirking responsibility - but something in him felt “obligated” to follow my Black ass around the store to “catch me.” He sheepishly sulked away, his balloon deflated because he hadn’t gotten his ‘gotcha’ moment. Meanwhile, I went back to completing my shopping, chalking it up as another Wednesday while Black in the United States. It did, however, highlight something I was fearful of as we went into November with SNAP benefits being non-existent: people of pallor policing Black and Brown folx in supermarkets even harder than they already do. And I knew what that meant: an increase in racism and hate crimes as “good” people of pallor think they’re stopping “dastardly criminals” when all they’re doing is showing how racist and ridiculous they truly are. I wondered how quickly into a hunger epidemic would people of pallor crank up their need to “catch the bad guys.”

It only took three days into November for my wondering to cease.

I’m using the self-checkout at the supermarket today because two cashiers are working and 100 damn people are trying to check out. I can sense the woman of pallor “managing” the self-checkout area, watching me like a lion stalking a gazelle as I ring up my vegetables. The moment I finish ringing up my zucchini, she pounces.

“Um, excuse me, but those squashes are different than the squashes you rang up.”

They weren’t. But I couldn’t wait to hear what she had to say.

Go on.

“These are $1.59/lb. And what you rang up was a $1.50/lb.”

You read that right. Your eyes do not deceive you. And I’d love to tell you this was the first time in my life I’ve faced something so preposterous in a supermarket, but that would be a lie.

9 cents.

She was hovering so close to me while I checked out that she saw the price and quantity of what I rang up. She was in my personal space that much, y’all. And she just had to make sure I was “caught red-handed” for a 9-cent difference that she was actually wrong about.

Eight other shoppers were checking out, but she had nothing to say to them. Not a thing. Not a glance their way. But she was on my ass like white on rice.

I’ll let you piece together what the racial demographics of every other person at a self-checkout machine were at the time.

It is these moments when I know that if I respond a certain way, I’ll be swarmed by security. I’ll be swarmed by security, and not one person of pallor checking out with their carts would step in and call out the nonsense they’re witnessing. But I’m also not willing to get treated like crap when my money with dead pallor presidents on it has the same value as anyone else’s, plus I don’t deserve harassment and targeting because of my skin color and the state of the raggedy-ass country I live in. And so I paused, stared her right in the eyes, and said, “If they’re so wrong, do you want to ring them up again?”

She went pale. Pale as a ghost rinsed with bleach, y’all.

She proceeded to recoil before stammering out, “No...no. Just telling you for next time.”

Again, I’m in a store full of shoppers and a packed self-checkout area at 4 in the afternoon, yet I’m the only person receiving the hands-on, red-carpet treatment.

Lucky me.

Please believe that what happened to me today is an escalation of an already normalized practice of white supremacist capitalism that will only get worse the longer this country’s leaders continue embracing harming as many people as possible while blaming their intentional harm tactics on Black, Brown, and immigrant communities.

Please believe that if you’re a person of pallor, or someone who has more privilege, power, and positionality than other melanated folx, and you witness this escalating harassment and say nothing, you are complicit in the harm of others for the sake of your own comfort.

And please believe that people in your life already know you’re a bystander and not a disruptor, “ally,” or whatever performative-ass thing y’all are calling yourselves these days.

On Polka Dot Dresses and Doing Anything But Actually Doing Something

Let's see...safety pins, vagina hats, blue bracelets, pink suits, and now?

Polka dot dresses.

Because why stand up, go outside, and physically be about that life like the female New Yorker in the polka dot dress who tussled with ICE agents Tuesday when an ICE sweep triggered protests on Manhattan’s Canal Street, when you can just cosplay as her and post pictures on social media of yourself with captions like "IYKYK"?

Oh, cishet women of pallor. The performative "clothing and accessories as a form of resistance" thing just never, ever ends with y'all, does it?

Geezus Kristo.

Accessorizing is NOT an act of resistance. Wearing a piece of clothing is NOT an act of resistance. But you know what? It is a great signal for the rest of us to clock your performative nonsense while knowing not to trust you or expect you to be ten toes down for a real, tangible, physical act of resistance in these streets.

And real talk? Some of y'all ain't got the skin tone to pull off polka dots.

You can sip that tea however you see fit.

On Charlie

So...Charlie Kirk was shot this afternoon while in Utah on one of his college campus indoctrination of young adults tours. He was shot while in the middle of talking about how trans mass shooters are one of the largest dangers to our society when the truth is cishet men of pallor are overwhelmingly the largest demographic of mass shooters and domestic terrorists in the United States.

All reports state that he didn't make it.

In other news, I'm making okra and tomatoes, cornbread, and fish for dinner. So...I'm really looking forward to that.

Now, before some of y'all call me out for being callous, let me just stop you right there because you'll be wasting your time and energy.

Charlie Kirk was a deplorable human being. His legacy will be that of a deplorable human being who added nothing to society other than pain and oppression by elevating hate in every space he could present it in.

You get from the universe what you put into it.

That includes violence, hate, and harm.

I shed no tears for horrible people who believe me or anyone else shouldn't exist or should be oppressed. I have no thoughts and prayers for them. Yeah, it sucks that we live in a country where anyone can be shot at any given time, regardless of whether I condone their beliefs or not. Thousands of innocent lives have been lost because the U.S. cares more about the right to own a gun and do with it what you will than the lives of its citizenry. But people like Charlie Kirk literally advocated for opposing gun laws that could save lives. There's footage of him saying that he thought not having gun laws was worthwhile, even if it meant we "had a few gun deaths each year," because sensible gun laws would infringe on [white] people's "rights."

Ironic, and not in that Alanis Morrisette way.

You get from the universe what you put into it.

Regardless of how they view my existence or the existence of others without their privilege, power, and positionality, I don't want anyone to die at the hands of gun violence, or any kind of violence for that matter. But again, you get from the universe what you put into it.

And let's be real here: it'll be those who have no power who will catch the most harm from Charlie Kirk's death. The powers-that-be will be extra harsh toward "liberals" - not "liberals" of pallor, mind you, but those who fit the "DEI agenda" - in the aftermath of all of this. We'll all learn nothing from it and Charlie's hateful legacy will be viewed through rose-colored glasses. I'm already seeing news outlets gloss over how hateful and harmful he was, with pundits calling him a "godly man," "enormously courageous," "unapologetic about his views," and someone who "cared deeply about informing young voters."

So...yeah.

I'm making okra and tomatoes, cornbread, and fish for dinner.

I hope your dinner is equally as delicious as mine will be. Sending that energy your way...

...because you get from the universe what you put into it.

On Medicaid, Migrant Workers, and "They Took Our Jobs"

Today, y'all's president's Secretary of Agriculture, a woman of pallor named Brooke Rollins, said millions of adult Medicaid participants who will now face stricter work requirements under y'all's president's "big beautiful bill" should replace migrant farm workers deported under y'all's president's police state-level ICE-led immigration policies.

So the "solution" to addressing any issues with immigration in the United States and the damn-near slave labor work options that many migrants have when they come to the United States is to spend taxpayer dollars to continue mass terrorism deportations of the folx who work hard to ensure most of us have food in our supermarkets and replace those folx with people on Medicaid, forcing what they perceive and verbalize as "able bodied" Medicaid recipients to work for their medical benefits coverage (coverage that will already be ravaged by y'all's president's "big beautiful bill," mind you) or die.

This is what some of y'all wanted, right? Migrants and immigrants "took your jobs," right? Now is your time to shine!

Y'all ready to get to work like your life depended on it?

Because for many of y'all, it does.

MAGA, amirite?

#eternalsideeye

An image of a white woman giving a side-eye to another white woman.

Image description: A picture of Brooke Rollins, the current United States Secretary of Agriculture, side-eyeing another woman of pallor. Rollins looks like she is trying to figure out how she can use her Karen powers to harm another Karen in real time.

[Image description: A picture of Brooke Rollins, the current United States Secretary of Agriculture, side-eyeing another woman of pallor. Rollins looks like she is trying to figure out how she can use her Karen powers to harm another Karen in real time.]

On Wolves, White Violence, and "Changing the World" After Reading One Anti-Racism Book

One of the ongoing conversations I have with white people is around them feeling like they've taken a couple of trainings, read a few books, and now understand 400+ years of racism and white supremacy to the point where they're ready to "change the world" and "be an ally."

Y’all don’t realize how dangerous y’all are.

I would rather you didn’t open up the door to learning if you weren’t going to come in, take a seat, and make it your forever home.

All y’all are doing is adding more weapons to your anti-Black, racist, white supremacy-upholding arsenal. You’re more dangerous to communities of color, Black, Brown, and Indigenous communities, when you know a little because y’all conflate it as if you know a lot and wield your good/bad binary like a Morningstar.

I have yet to see a white person who has attended a couple of trainings at work and read a few basic books do anything but harm melanated folx while thinking they’re helping us with their new “education.” And I have yet to see an “educated” white person respond to being called in or out about harming others demonstrate that they have the emotional maturity and ongoing understanding of white supremacy enough to take in the feedback, atone, and do better.

Wolves in ill-fitting sheep’s clothing.

If you’re going to open the door, come in, stay awhile, and decide if you’re gonna love it or list it.

For all our sakes.

[Image Description: An image of two wolves staring at each other under a big moon. Above them are the words, “White people: inside you there are two wolves.” Below them are the words, “They’re both racist. One of them just hides it better than the other.”]

Image Description: An image of two wolves staring at each other under a big moon. Above them are the words, “White people: inside you there are two wolves.” Below them are the words, “They’re both racist. One of them just hides it better than the other.”