On Polka Dot Dresses and Doing Anything But Actually Doing Something

Let's see...safety pins, vagina hats, blue bracelets, pink suits, and now?

Polka dot dresses.

Because why stand up, go outside, and physically be about that life like the female New Yorker in the polka dot dress who tussled with ICE agents Tuesday when an ICE sweep triggered protests on Manhattan’s Canal Street, when you can just cosplay as her and post pictures on social media of yourself with captions like "IYKYK"?

Oh, cishet women of pallor. The performative "clothing and accessories as a form of resistance" thing just never, ever ends with y'all, does it?

Geezus Kristo.

Accessorizing is NOT an act of resistance. Wearing a piece of clothing is NOT an act of resistance. But you know what? It is a great signal for the rest of us to clock your performative nonsense while knowing not to trust you or expect you to be ten toes down for a real, tangible, physical act of resistance in these streets.

And real talk? Some of y'all ain't got the skin tone to pull off polka dots.

You can sip that tea however you see fit.

On SNAP, Your Friends, Your Neighbors, and You Being Cold as Ice

Come November 1, millions of people in the United States will see their ongoing struggle to survive and afford groceries in a disintegrating economy increase tenfold, as the federal government shutdown has ensured that no one will be receiving SNAP benefits. In a year that has already been an uphill climb up a mountain of quicksand and bramble bushes for millions of families, this is like someone at the top of said mountain throwing barrels down at you like Donkey Kong.

Now, before one of y'all chimes in with glee about people you think are "mooching off the system" and being happy that families, children, senior citizens, people with disabilities - hell, anyone - could starve and die I want you to 1) go take a long walk and call up a therapist to figure out and unpack who hurt you to the point where starvation makes you giggle like the Pillsbury doughboy, 2) prepare for your comment to be deleted as well as being added to my block list, and 3) recognize that government assistance isn't some mooching operation as you've decided to believe.

Your friends, neighbors, and colleagues who go to work every damn day are gettin' SNAP benefits too, you cold bastard. And you don't have a clue because you've proven to be someone they can't trust to care about their wellbeing so they have to keep their needs private while being made self-conscious of their need for assistance by the words and actions of people like you.

The Center on Budget and Policy Priorities (CBBP) released data in January 2025 that shared the following statistics:

- In 2024, over 38% of households receiving SNAP benefits nationally included at least one working family member.
- For SNAP households with children, 55% had earned income in 2023 (2023 is the most recent data available because why do the work to keep accurate statistics on something like this?).

The CBBP also made sure to emphasize that while the percentage of households with a working family member is significant, data snapshots often undercount how many SNAP participants worked over the course of a year, as job market volatility and other factors lead many folx to cycle in and out of jobs. Studies have also shown that non-disabled working-age adults who can work do so, and many rely on SNAP only for temporary support. The CBBP also emphasized that many workers, particularly those in low-wage or service and sales jobs that are impacted by seasonal fluctuations or the health of the economy, rely on SNAP benefits to supplement their income and help afford groceries.

So instead of havin' a good laugh about the misery of others, maybe take a minute to dispel your ridiculously racist and bigoted notions of welfare and government assistance and keep your thoughts to your damn self.

If you're not going to contribute to supporting others and showing up as a empathic human being then do us all a favor and contribute to reducing noise pollution while the rest of us work our asses off to assist others in a time of crisis.

On "No Kings" and Actually Doing Something

So there was a big ol' national "No Kings" rally this past weekend. And you know what? Some respect for people who showed up, marched, made signs, and wanted to be in solidarity with like-minded people who aren't ok with *gestures wildly* EVERYTHING happening in the United States right now. You wanted to stand up and be counted among those who are against authoritarianism, hate, and oppression. Cool. But real talk? I always find myself asking people who attend these mass protests the same questions.

What organizations had a hand in organizing your local protest? Did you get information from those orgs for how you can volunteer time, money, supplies, or other resources to their causes?

How many resource guides and informational pamphlets, booklets, or flyers did you get at the rally? Have you scanned those documents in and shared them with others?

Did you leave the "No Kings" rally with some idea of how you'd like to focus your time and energy for the next few months or year? Did you leave with a clear idea of something you can dive into right now, something tangible, that you can take action with today?

Now, when I ask questions like this, of course certain people *cough* people of pallor *cough* get agitated. Evidently, I'm a hater or "not down for the cause" when I ask people what their plans are post-flashy social media-worthy rally experience. But guess what? That's the actual purpose of a protest rally, dude.

Seriously.

The purpose of a protest rally is to gather in solidarity while learning about tangible ways you can actively engage in social activism and do your part in addressing human rights issues in your community.

You know, volunteering your time and energy and putting your skills to use on particular issues in your community.

You know, ACTUAL community organizing and engagement.

You know, not just spending 10 hours on a sign that'll sit in your closet gathering dust until the next "No Kings" rally where you'll rinse and repeat with no tangible actions taken on your part to be actively engaged in pursuing change.

But OK, I guess I'm a hater for expecting substance over style.

C'est la vie.

On Chet, Sheryl, and Not Addressing Elephants Trampling Us So Y'all Can Maintain White Comfort

TW: brief mentions of sexual harassment, assault, misgendering

You want to know one of my many white supremacist workplace culture pet peeves?

When everyone on the team or in a small company gets "reprimanded" or "coached" for something that one person has said or done. And we all know who did or said the thing but we all have to pay for it more than the people doing and saying the harmful and hateful things.

I loathe being in a meeting and a supervisor wants to stress the importance of respecting people's pronouns when we all know Sheryl is the one person on the team who gleefully misgenders people and disrespects pronouns.

I abhor everyone on the team having to take the online sexual harassment training for the umpteenth time this year because, for some reason, serial sexual harasser Chet is never fully held accountable for being scum that most of us have filed complaints about until it's way too late and he physically assaults someone.

The white supremacist workplace culture's right to comfort and fear of open conflict nonsense ensures that harmful people maintain status and employment instead of being shown the door.

Making all of us redo trainings or sit through group-wide "coaching sessions" that should be meant for Chet and Sheryl alone to make it clear to them that their words or actions have consequences ensures that Sheryl and Chet will continue doing harm and keeping the toxicity of your workplace nice and elevated.

But you know, let's prioritize that comfort, civility, and collegiality until the inevitable lawsuits come, right?

On Ryan Walters, White Supremacy and its Beef With Education

So remember Oklahoma Superintendent of Schools Ryan Walters? You might recall that yesterday Ryan announced that every Oklahoma high school will have a Turning Point USA chapter to "promote free speech, open engagement, dialogue about [U.S.] American greatness, a dialogue around [U.S.] American values." Oklahoma is 50th in the nation in education, but sure! Why not?

Well, this morning, during a news interview with a local news affiliate, Ryan abruptly announced he's resigning as the Superintendent of Schools to become the CEO of the Teacher Freedom Alliance. Who are they?

The Teacher Freedom Alliance is a conservative nonprofit that says it assists educators “in their mission to develop free, moral, and upright American citizens.” What it actually does is target teachers unions who are aiming for inclusivity and equity in education while amplifying the voices of the hateful, racist bigots that teach and handle school administration in some areas of the country.

During his resignation announcement, Ryan happily proclaimed “We’re going to destroy the teachers unions. We have seen the teachers unions use money and power to corrupt our schools, to undermine our schools.”

Ryan then abruptly left the news studio, running from reporters as they tried to get some kind of timetable on when he made this decision, when he would be leaving his role as Superintendent, or if he felt destroying teachers unions across the country was a good idea. As you can see in the video, he had no additional comments at this time.

So, let's summarize: Ryan Walters sold out the Oklahoma educational system to Turning Point USA, giving a middle finger to thousands of children the state of Oklahoma are failing because learning doesn't matter when you can spend education funds to "combat woke", then bounced with no notice, lining his pockets by jumping to a hateful nonprofit where he can do the kind of damage he's done to students in Oklahoma on a national level.

Ryan is, for lack of a better term, a douche.

This situation saddens me. Children are hurt because of a ridiculous white supremacist bigot and a white supremacist nationalist agenda. Oklahomans voted for this man. He sold them on a vision of their state education system that decenters legitimate educational standards and amplifies their belief that their whiteness is in danger and needs to be protected at all costs. And the scariest thing?

Oklahoma ain't the only place in the United States with a Ryan.

(Somebody's) Lord help us all.